#1 Habit Expert: Here's how you become dramatically better

Key Takeaways

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  Habits are replaced rather than extinguished

  “The key is, don't try and extinguish the habit, rather try and change it, find a new behavior, like eating M&Ms, that corresponds to the old cue, and that delivers something similar to the old reward. And in doing so, you're kind of overriding that neural pathway inside your brain.”

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  Keystone habits trigger automatic positive routines

  “I actually did come up with a phrase Keystone Habit. My wife is a biologist and there's this concept of Keystone Species. And so I was talking through this idea... it just makes it so easy to like take the next step and like go out the door, right? Like you probably at this point, when you are running, you're not even thinking about running as you start.”

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  Systems matter more than individual willpower

  “There's this phrase in the CEO world, something like you don't rise to your willpower, you fall to your systems, or something like that, where it's like the system is what dictates whether you're going to be successful or not, not like willpower or not how you feel. And the point being at a company, you have to have systems because that's what you default to.”

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  Behavior reveals true internal preferences

  “Our brain actually is kind of skeptical of our stated preferences, but it pays attention to how we behave to figure out who we really are. And so this act of cleaning up every day at three o'clock... it's not about organizing the clutter, it's about revealing to ourselves, proving to ourselves that we are the kinds of people who do this.”

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  Success creates a bewildering fog of demands

  “I was talking to Jim Collins, the guy who wrote Good to Great last night on stage because he has a new book out. And he talked about the bewildering fog of success. And that year, 2013, was exactly that for me. Like on paper, it was the best year of my life. I had a best-selling book. I won a Pulitzer Prize. In reality, it was like the hardest year of my life.”

Episode Description

Run your life like a $100M business. Get the system here: https://clickhubspot.com/cdew Episode 815: Sam Parr ( https://x.com/theSamParr ) talks to Charles Duhigg ( https://x.com/cduhigg ) about how to transform your life through habits.  — Show Notes:  (0:00) the habit loop (5:26) you fall to the levels of your systems (11:06) replying to emails in your inbox (14:44) chosen bad habits (16:20) 1-line journaling (19:30) supercommunication  (28:12) Trump's supercommunication skill (33:15) a case against authenticity (37:44) famous speeches  (45:58) coldcalling 900 people (47:43) 60-second productivity masterclass  (49:51) The best stuff Charles has read lately (53:13) financial freedom (56:17) bending the earth to your will — Links: • Charles Duhigg - https://charlesduhigg.com/  — Check Out Sam's Stuff: • Hampton (joinhampton.com): My community for founders. Average member does $25m/year. Many of the guests are members. Get after it...apply: http://joinhampton.com/mfm — Check Out Shaan's Stuff: • Shaan's weekly email - https://www.shaanpuri.com  • Visit https://www.somewhere.com/mfm to hire worldwide talent like Shaan and get $500 off for being an MFM listener. Hire developers, assistants, marketing pros, sales teams and more for 80% less than US equivalents. • Mercury - Need a bank for your company? Go check out Mercury (mercury.com). Shaan uses it for all of his companies! Mercury is a financial technology company, not an FDIC-insured bank. Banking services provided by Choice Financial Group, Column, N.A., and Evolve Bank & Trust, Members FDIC • I run all my newsletters on Beehiiv and you should too + we're giving away $10k to our favorite newsletter, check it out: beehiiv.com/mfm-challenge My First Million is a HubSpot Original Podcast // Brought to you by HubSpot Media // Production by Arie Desormeaux // Editing by Ezra Bakker Trupiano /