Economic viability dictates male status and mating currency
“A male from a self esteem standpoint, from a sexual currency standpoint, from the esteem of the tribe or the society is gonna be disproportionately evaluated based on your economic viability. So from an early age, try and have a plan. You may not have to stick to that plan. I’m not saying you gotta go to Harvard and go to work at Goldman Sachs, but maybe you’re gonna go to trade school, learn how to install energy efficient HVAC, but you just need a plan.”
Success depends on the endurance to handle rejection
“The only thing I can guarantee you is there were a shit ton of no's in getting to one of the top 10 podcasts in the world, getting to a person as a partner who's higher character and hotter than you, getting to make more money than you would have ever guessed that person would have made. The only thing that got them there was the willingness and the endurance to anticipate no.”
Big tech monetization harms young male social development
“40% of the S and P is 10 companies whose sole mission is to monetize your time. And unfortunately, they’re not bad people, but what they’re doing has resulted in a small group, a cohort of men, it’s not small, millions of men who are evolving into a new species of asocial asexual males who wake up at the age of 30 thinking they’ve had a frictionless life living at home, obese, anxious, and depressed, having never developed the skills that they need to do well professionally, personally.”
Masculinity requires being a provider, protector, and procreator
“I loosely break it down into three very reductive qualities. And that is the first is to be a provider. I think every young man should have a plan and have an assumption that at some point, he will have to be the economic leader provider for his family. The second is protector. If you think about the most masculine jobs, fireman, cop, military, the notion is you develop skills and strengths such that you can protect others. I find that’s the most rewarding thing in the world. And then finally procreator.”
Physical strength serves as a foundational mental antidepressant
“I just think the best antidepressant is moving weights, building some bulk, or running far. I’ve jokingly said every man under the age of 30 should aspire to be able to walk in any room and know if shit got real, they could kill and eat everybody or outrun them. Like, there’s different forms of fitness. You can be fast. You can be flexible. You can be strong. But there’s no excuse.”
Mandatory national service builds civic purpose and equality
“If I could have one policy, one blanket, if I had a magic wand, one policy, it’d be mandatory national service. It gives you the sense that you’re serving the agency of something bigger than yourself. It gives you purpose. You’re handling dangerous equipment. It’s the great equalizer. You don’t care that this gay kid is totally different than you. You respond to his or her character and competence because if you’re getting fired on, you don’t give a shit how rich their father is.”
Algorithmic feedback loops drive social isolation and resentment
“The dating apps have an incentive in you finding a bigger, better deal. And the genders have done an amazing job of convincing each other it’s the other’s fault. And I think one of the big foci that need to be really pay more attention to is what I call renewal of alliances. The integration of female and male energy, the ability to find someone you want to procreate with, to build something together, that is the most rewarding thing in life.”
