Masculinity requires being a provider, protector, and procreator
“I loosely break it down into three very reductive qualities. And that is the first is to be a provider. I think every young man should have a plan and have an assumption that at some point, he will have to be the economic leader provider for his family. The second is protector. If you think about the most masculine jobs, fireman, cop, military, the notion is you develop skills and strengths such that you can protect others. I find that’s the most rewarding thing in the world. And then finally procreator.”
Big tech monetization harms young male social development
“40% of the S and P is 10 companies whose sole mission is to monetize your time. And unfortunately, they’re not bad people, but what they’re doing has resulted in a small group, a cohort of men, it’s not small, millions of men who are evolving into a new species of asocial asexual males who wake up at the age of 30 thinking they’ve had a frictionless life living at home, obese, anxious, and depressed, having never developed the skills that they need to do well professionally, personally.”
Physical strength serves as a foundational mental antidepressant
“I just think the best antidepressant is moving weights, building some bulk, or running far. I’ve jokingly said every man under the age of 30 should aspire to be able to walk in any room and know if shit got real, they could kill and eat everybody or outrun them. Like, there’s different forms of fitness. You can be fast. You can be flexible. You can be strong. But there’s no excuse.”
Economic viability dictates male status and mating currency
“A male from a self esteem standpoint, from a sexual currency standpoint, from the esteem of the tribe or the society is gonna be disproportionately evaluated based on your economic viability. So from an early age, try and have a plan. You may not have to stick to that plan. I’m not saying you gotta go to Harvard and go to work at Goldman Sachs, but maybe you’re gonna go to trade school, learn how to install energy efficient HVAC, but you just need a plan.”
Mandatory national service builds civic purpose and equality
“If I could have one policy, one blanket, if I had a magic wand, one policy, it’d be mandatory national service. It gives you the sense that you’re serving the agency of something bigger than yourself. It gives you purpose. You’re handling dangerous equipment. It’s the great equalizer. You don’t care that this gay kid is totally different than you. You respond to his or her character and competence because if you’re getting fired on, you don’t give a shit how rich their father is.”
Algorithmic feedback loops drive social isolation and resentment
“The dating apps have an incentive in you finding a bigger, better deal. And the genders have done an amazing job of convincing each other it’s the other’s fault. And I think one of the big foci that need to be really pay more attention to is what I call renewal of alliances. The integration of female and male energy, the ability to find someone you want to procreate with, to build something together, that is the most rewarding thing in life.”
Success depends on the endurance to handle rejection
“The only thing I can guarantee you is there were a shit ton of no's in getting to one of the top 10 podcasts in the world, getting to a person as a partner who's higher character and hotter than you, getting to make more money than you would have ever guessed that person would have made. The only thing that got them there was the willingness and the endurance to anticipate no.”
Positive masculinity involves being a provider, protector, and procreator
“So I loosely break it down into three very reductive qualities. And that is the first is to be a provider. I'm not talking about the way the world is, but the way the world should be. I think every young man should have a plan and have an assumption that at some point, he will have to be the economic leader provider for for his family.”
“It’s about, at some point, can you honestly look in the mirror and say, I add surplus value. I create more tax revenue and jobs than I absorb. Everyone absorbs tax revenue if you're in America. I listen to more people complain than I complain. Right? I love more people than love me.”
“Unfortunately, we have attached 40% of the market value of the S and P to incendiary content that tears us apart. And the result is people now don't believe that Russian troops pouring over the border in Ukraine is their enemy. They believe that their neighbor with a Trump sign is their enemy or someone who doesn't believe your ideology around gender politics is your enemy.”
“Everyone you admire, everyone you think has killed it, the only thing I can guarantee you is there were a ton of nos in getting to one of the top 10 podcasts in the world, getting to a person as a partner who's higher character and hotter than you, getting to make more money than you would have ever guessed that person would have made. The only thing that got them there was the willingness and the endurance to to anticipate no.”
National service mandates would combat young adult isolation
“If I could have one policy, one blanket, if I had a magic wand, one policy, it'd be mandatory national service. If you look at the lowest levels of young adult depression in the West, it's two countries. It's Israel and Singapore. And despite all the existential threats facing Israel, they what does mandatory national service do? It gives you the sense that you're serving the agency of something bigger than yourself.”
Social Security transfers wealth from young to old
“We are literally transferring trillions of dollars from young people to old people. And we wonder why young men feel anxious when they are disparate. But 75% of women say economic viability is key to a mate. It's only 25% of men.”
Economic hypergamy still dictates the mating market
“Economic hypergamy is still an absolutely full, full force. So if we don't figure out a way to level up all young people economically such that there's more pass for economic viability for young men, I think it's just gonna tear at our society.”
Lowering the drinking age fosters social connection
“I think they should study and and thoughtfully consider lowering their drinking age back to 18. I live in The UK and see by your face where those are going. I live in The UK. Military drinking age 18. I mean, I like some of the things that I've been doing. Well, if you're in the military, you can drink under the age of 21 because the idea is that if you're gonna die for your country, you should be able you're adult enough to order a drink.”